A woman trying to make memories with her older children ended up arguing with her partner as she planned to leave their youngest at home.

Reddit user Complete-Spot2632 is mom to three kids: a four-year-old girl, and 14-year-old twins from her previous marriage.

She explained that for most of her life, she had gone to Disney “multiple times a year,” and this continued in her first marriage and raising the twins.

The tradition then came to an end with her divorce in 2018, and it was years before she went to Disney again as her current partner is “just not a fan,” and “doesn’t understand the importance it has held in my life.”

Earlier this year, however, they brought their four-year-old and the twins, along with extended family, for the youngest member of the family’s first-ever Disney trip, and they all enjoyed it.

It reminded the mom, however, of the trips she used to take with her twins—and now she wants to visit again, just with them.

“Last night I suggested that I would like to take the older kids for a quick 3-4 day trip as their Christmas present in February,” she wrote in a post to the AITAH sub.

She explained that it’s “getting harder” to buy gifts her teenagers will like, but they “love” Disney and “always ask when we can go back.”

But her partner was horrified at the idea, and called her “selfish for wanting to leave my 4-year-old behind, and that I was favoring the older kids.”

He argued that Disney is meant for younger kids, and has basically forbidden her from taking a Disney trip with her older kids without also bringing the younger child.

She argued that this trip would be “a nice memory for me and my twins,” but admitted that it would also “be nice to have 3-4 days without caring for a toddler.”

“I haven’t had any sort of adult vacation since before she was born,” she wrote, and said that the trip is “for me as much as it is for [the teenagers].”

But her partner argued that if this trip was about her, rather than favoring the teenagers, then she could just as easily bring the youngest on the trip and leave the teenagers at home.

She clarified that her boyfriend is a good partner and father to all three kids and he considers the teenagers his own, and the situation has made her wonder if she really is in the wrong for suggesting the trip.

Her four-year-old will get many more trips to Disney in the future, she added, including a one-on-one trip “when she is old enough,” and this situation is “merely about having an experience for the older girls with their Mom.”

And, just as she and her partner butted heads over whether this was a good idea the internet, too, was divided.

The mom, who asked to remain anonymous, told Newsweek: “I had no idea that thread was going to go the way it did.

“It is really interesting because it combined so many polarizing topics–blended families, marital dynamics, parental roles and Disney itself, which so many people either love or hate.”

One commenter wrote: “I think that your husband just doesn’t want to be responsible for a toddler alone for 3-4 days.”

But another asked: “What are you going to tell your 4-year-old? They are not going to understand why they didn’t/can’t go to Disney but [her] older siblings got to go.”

Another argued that if she did bring the youngest child, “all her time will be with the 4 year old who can’t go on the same rides with the older kids,” and someone else agreed: “Taking teens to Disney and taking a 4 yr old to Disney are two very different experiences.”

“I do think it seems kind of mean to leave a kid that old at home while you go to Disney with their siblings,” one person said, and suggested: “Can your partner go too? That way you could have some time in the evenings with your teens while he does bedtime with your youngest.”

A different person said: “Kids need individual time with their parents. It’s not favoring one over the other. It’s meeting their individual emotional needs.”

A report from Psychology Today advises that quality one-on-one time with children increases the parent’s positive influence and strengthens the bond between parent and child.

Parents should make time together a priority—this can be anything from a story at bedtime, a weekly walk, a talk in the car, or something bigger—such as a one-on-one trip together to mark a special occasion.