My husband told me recently that he loves that I have a higher sex drive than him.

He’s not wrong.

As a Christian woman, this can come as a shock to people. We all know that the stereotype is the other way around. Many even incorrectly state it as a dogmatic law and cannot even imagine the existence of a higher drive woman.

I must also confess my husband is an unbeliever, and we met 22 years ago when I was an unbeliever, too. I had many doubts at the time, and I especially didn’t think women with a very high sex drive fit into the Christian stereotypes that we see everywhere to this day. (The Bible itself never makes absolute statements about women’s sex drives, but that doesn’t stop Christian culture.)

Perhaps equally shocking is my drive is extremely straightforward. It is a desire for physical masculinity. I’m not aroused by toys, kink, novelty, role play, emotion, and the like. When I see a fine man, I simply want all of him, but as a woman committed to Biblical monogamy, I save the application of this wanting exclusively for my husband. I love deep penetration from him. I love leaning forward on top of my husband and receiving his manhood inside me. And I love letting go and letting him take over as he nears climax. It’s an intense pleasure like nothing else.

It is not typical for a woman to be like this, I know. I can’t talk about this to many people. They usually can’t understand it. I don’t know why I’m wired like this, but I always have been, and probably always will be. From the curious teenager who knew I’d need a man someday, to the fort-something woman who has now had my man for over two decades, this is who I am. I’m a higher drive wife. We exist in spite of our culture, and I’m here to tell the story about it.